Why Does Arguing With Your Partner Make You Horny?

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There are all kinds of sexual encounters. From kinky role-playing to outdoor quickies, they all seem fun and enjoyable. However, not many stir up as much controversy as sex after fighting with a partner. This post-fight intercourse is a constant topic of discussion among both experts and regular Joes.

Therefore, our article aims to explore the world of hot action after yelling at each other. We’ll cover pop culture tropes, the chemistry behind it, and try to offer somewhat of a conclusion in the end. Don’t worry — we promise it won’t make you change your mind about it. Moreover, we think it might get even better after reading this.

The Classic Romance Plot

In case you didn’t notice, there’s a definite trope in most movies that revolve around romance between two people. It all starts easy, and love is everywhere. But then, all of a sudden, love disappears. The couple starts to argue, yell, and even throw things at one another. However, at the last moment, the two engage in hot yet angry make-up sex.

The viewer gets no time to reflect on the previous events and ends up in sheer wonder about what they’re watching. We don’t blame them since these sex scenes are usually more fun than anything else. There’s some visceral quality to it (if done right) that glues your eyes onto the screen.

But why is that? Why does make-up sex look and feel better than anything else? Well, there are various factors in play, and we’ll try to explain them. So let’s go behind the curtains and explore post-fight sex, shall we?

Hormones

Although it might sound strange, science has a lot to do with make-up sex feeling so good. The thing is, once you’re upset and stressed-out, your hormones sky-rocket, and you long for closure that sex and intimacy provide. Testosterone, adrenaline, and cortisol are the main reasons for the genesis of make-up sex.

On the other hand, reaching a climax and feeling sexual pleasure are things that make everything better. Together, they increase serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin, making love feel like it does. It’s a balance between stress and pleasure.

Come to think of it, it all resembles a classic narrative structure. There’s the plot basis (various problems building-up), the climax (the fight and arguing), and eventual resolution in sex and snuggling. It’s close to Oscar Wild’s idea that life imitates art more than the other way around. It all sounds so poetic. Doesn’t it?

Anxiety and Arousal

The two other factors that come into play are anxiety and arousal. Although quite different in ways they make us feel, you could argue they’re twin sensations. The thing is, they work the body in the same way — they increase the heart rate and blood flow and make us gasp for air like a fish out of water.

Sexologists explain that one emotion leads to another because of their similar nature. The body is in a sink-or-swim situation, which fills you with the energy to act. Since you have your attractive partner in front of you, the only logical option is to indulge in sexual intercourse. It’s almost a paradox, but that’s how our bodies work.

You Are Probably a Masochist

Although this one seems a bit far-fetched, it’s worth a mention. Yup, some people claim that switching between emotions is close to sadomasochism. They do have a point if you think about it more. Namely, anger/passion and suffering/connection are like two sides of the same coin.

Some people enjoy pain in ways that others find disturbing. Moreover, it’s a big thing in the BDSM community. S&M stands for sadism and masochism, and they are all about gaining pleasure from inflicting or absorbing different kinds of pain. So if you take the time to think about it, some people crave fighting consciously, so they can enjoy making-up later.

Of course, it doesn’t work like that all the time. What makes make-up sex good is the spontaneous nature of it. The whole point is to surprise both of you, coming out of the blue and making it an unforgettable experience. However, there’s no need to worry as this doesn’t mean that you’re part of the BDSM community if you don’t feel like that.

Make-Up Sex Is Hot

Lastly, it’s important to say that having arguments and fighting is as normal as can be in any relationship. Not being on the same page all the time is what makes being together interesting, no matter how strange it might sound. Otherwise, it would become stale and boring. Make-up sex is a great example that it’s worth the struggle.

Nevertheless, it just feels good. Although it might sound shallow and selfish to say, having such confrontations from time to time is what makes a lot of couples stay together. They resolve their problems through either words or sex. The latter is always better if you ask us. Tearing each other’s clothes off, kissing like you hate one another, and fucking like animals is an awesome way to keep a relationship healthy. Heck, it can even rejuvenate one that was seemingly dead for some time.

So keep in mind that there’s no shame in confronting your partner sometimes. Everyone does it. It just depends on if you take the next step and resolve your conflict with some naughty action without physical violence. Also, there’s a clear difference between even the harshest of BDSM relationships and domestic abuse. If you’re a victim of it, be sure to contact the authorities because there’s no room for such scenarios in any healthy relationship.